I've got to thinking today and the best way to start would be to talk about high school love. Why not start at the basics. Where we all first "fell in love" or thought we did anyway.
Me personally, I thought I fell in love when I was 15 years old. Later on I think back and just wonder what the heck was I thinking. How could I have thought I was in love? Because this is the age where we learn what love is and what love isn't. We HAVE to go through this to learn what are the rights and wrongs of love. Who is going to be suitable for us in the future, and who are the "right now" men/women.
Now love always being the roller coaster that it is, it's hard for the younger aged to get over their first crush. They think it's the end of the world. I'm sorry that I don't find Romeo and Juliet very romantic. They were too young to know what love was, let alone die for eachother. My personal opinion I think it's harder these days for all the youngsters out their to "get over" their love because of all the broken homes. They want to find some acceptance......and where else would they look for that besides where they are 8 hours out of a day 5 days a week. High school.
Beings I'm not a parent, quite yet.....I shall explain what I would do if I was a parent of a teenager.
Quit simply I think that teenagers these days are NOT being punished enough and are running rampid around, doing whatever they please. I wouldn't let my child date until the age of 16 or older and only if they WANT to date. I would sit them down in junior high and explain to them.....all the emotions and the things they are going to go through and that no matter WHAT goes on they can always come to me with questions.
Thoughts? Opinions?
I don't think it's just about punishing teenagers for going their own way and doing as they want. I think by that point it's clear they didn't grow up in a good home with good parents and if that's the case then by the time they reach their teens and middle school they will have more respect for their friends(good or bad) than their parents and it won't matter how much they're punished anymore, I think it'll simply make them more rebellious. My son has good parents that will never ignore him or abuse him and he'll always have a good home with people that love him so he should always trust and respect our advice when he reaches his teens and know what's right for him.
ReplyDeleteI don't remember High School, it was so long ago and the times were much different. I've had my share of harsh lessons over the years though when you first get into something and you swear it's meant to be in the first month then all hell breaks loose and your left to rot and rethink. I've almost given up and I sometimes wonder if anyone really knows what they really want anymore. I have lonely nights and times when I just want to jump back into something just to feel what it's like again, but I'm too old to be wasting my time unless I know it feels right. That's ok though, I have all the time in the world to find the one I can finally turn. muhaha.
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